What’s the story you’re telling yourself?

How changing the stories we tell ourselves can change our habits

Wellness Coach, Lifestyle Medicine Practitioner and new mum, Bell Silverthorne shares how we can change our habits by changing the stories we tell ourselves.

I recently watched a documentary (The call to courage on Netflix should you be interested). One of the things which has stuck with me was the notion of the stories we tell ourselves. Or in other words, the narrative/thoughts we tell ourselves, which we believe to be true. While this is certainly not a new concept. Remember all those motivational quotes “whether you think you can, or whether you think you can’t, you’re right.” It’s an important point to pop up in our consciousness every now and again.


Find a positive story that helps you

I recently had my first baby, and I have found it really interesting the stories I have been telling myself. Both ones that have worked well for me, and ones which haven’t exactly helped get me. One of the positive stories I told myself was “getting out every day makes me feel human, and makes me a better mum”. Going walking, even if it was a short walk around the block was so important. Even if bubs was crying her heart out, it provided a change of scenery from the same four walls. It felt so nice to stretch my body out from being cramped from so much sitting and awkward feeding postures.

Those first few walks felt so liberating to have my body back to myself. Even if it looked and felt very different. I’m sure there were a few more body parts which were once had some level of being toned!


Shifting the story

One of the less-than-ideal-well-being stories I was telling myself “I’m breastfeeding, I can pretty well eat anything.” Or “I’ve had a bad night/day with bubs, I deserve a few treats”. The human brain is amazing at what we can convince ourselves. Even with my own knowledge of the importance of good nutrition, I fell victim to the insatiable need to snack. “Oh I’m feeding her – time for a snack” or “she’s gone down for a sleep, time for a snack”. Before I knew it, my ability to justify snacking was as critical as a little kid pleading their case that they really haven’t been naughty this year. In fact, they have been very good, and that Santa should definitely get them that latest toy.

But you know what, I woke up one day and thought this story is no longer working for me. I want to feel like I’m back to eating much better,  like I practice what I preach and also feel like I’m working back to my pre-baby body! So I had to go cold turkey on snacks for a week which was HARD. Look, I’m not saying I’m a hero. It was only a week. But it was long enough to unshackle the hold snacks had over me so I’m back to a more balanced approach. I’m back on the well-being wagon and mentally feel so much better for it.


Now it’s your turn

So when it comes to your well-being habits, what stories are you telling yourself? Does that sprained ankle from netball 6 years ago really still affect your ability to be active in some shape or form? Are your stories working for you or is it time for you to shake up your script?


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Bell Silverthorne is an exercise physiologist, wellness coach and lifestyle medicine practitioner with a passion for every day Australians to be that little bit healthier. Whether it’s sleeping better, exercising more, eating more fruit and veggies each day or doing your best to maintain a good headspace. Bell is a massive advocate of lifestyle medicine – harnessing your everyday lifestyle habits to help prevent, manage or even reverse chronic disease.